Walking the road of spiritual growth is not easy. Sometimes God calls us to endure difficult circumstances so that we can learn and grow. And sometimes we fail in an area where we had high expectations. We disappoint ourselves. How can we know whether our expectations of ourselves are appropriate or unrealistic?
Those of you who’ve been following my prayer experiment know that it hasn’t gone as I had hoped. Here are six questions I’ve been pondering. If you’re facing disappointment with yourself, maybe they can help you evaluate your own expectations.
- Do I have the resources (time, energy, money, knowledge, etc.) to meet this expectation?
- Does the Bible say God expects this of me?
- What would happen if I lowered my expectations of myself in this area?
- Can I build up more slowly to the goal?
- Why do I have these expectations?
- What is the most important pursuit in my life, and does my unmet expectation run parallel or contrary to my most important pursuit?
These questions can’t make disappointment vanish, but they can help us thoughtfully consider what lies behind our feelings.